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Conversations with Lynda Harris

Today we’d like to introduce you to Lynda Harris.

Hi Lynda, thanks for joining us today. We’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.
Over ten years ago, my best friend asked me to become ordained in order to perform her wedding. Being someone who cries at Maxwell House commercials (aren’t they touching?), I declined and offered to help coordinate the wedding instead.

Two years later, a friend asked me the same thing, and again I declined. She waited a year and asked again. I finally accepted but let them know that if I cried or broke down in the middle of the ceremony, they were to blame. My first wedding was performed at the Missouri Botanical Garden, and I was so nervous, I swore I would never do it again. Since then, I’ve officiated more than 50 ceremonies, and each time I swear no more because I’m as or more nervous than the couple getting married.

I love being a part of everyone’s special day, and I love letting them decide how their day will go, with the freedom to express their love in a way that’s unique to their story and their personalities.

We all face challenges, but looking back would you describe it as a relatively smooth road?
I have been very lucky with the couples who’ve contacted me. We almost all immediately hit it off and can work together to get them to the ceremony they’re looking for.

In the beginning, I tried to do weddings as the officiant AND the photographer, and it was just too much pressure and too much work for me. I live a life VERY full of wonderful relationships that I have a full-time career that I love. It was not easy finding that balance, and I may never achieve it completely, but it’s MUCH better – it’s the same struggle that the majority of working people with actual home lives face every day. It’s all about trying to hit a higher percentage of balance more often.

Thanks – so what else should our readers know about your work and what you’re currently focused on?
I am a marriage officiant. I specialize in diverse ceremonies that my couples are comfortable with and that express the feelings they are trying to convey. I’m most proud of the way I connect with my couples. I feel THAT we are able to meet a level of calm that keeps us all from passing out at the altar – it’s a mutually beneficial relationship.

Not knowing what “others” do, I can’t really say what sets me apart from others. One thing I believe is an important part of my services is checking in with the couple to see if they need help with anything and sending a casual text on the morning of the wedding… I do anything I can to put my clients at ease and provide even a glimpse of calm during what can sometimes be a chaotic event.

Is there something surprising that you feel even people who know you might not know about?
I am almost always as truly nervous as the couple, up until the moment the ceremony begins. I’ve been told over and over that you would never guess, but it is very true. I am always afraid I’ll yawn or something during the ceremony, but so far it’s never happened.


  • Deposit $25
  • Budget Package $100-$150
  • Military Furlough Special $50-$75
  • Basic Package $150-$200
  • Design Package $200-$250

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Mark Harris

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