Today we’d like to introduce you to Susan Gobbo.
Hi Susan, it’s an honor to have you on the platform. Thanks for sharing your story with us – to start, maybe you can share some of your backstory with our readers.
In the heart of Brazil, amidst the lush landscapes of São Paulo, lies Piraju, a quaint, multicultural town where my story unfolds. Here, under the vast Brazilian sky, I was born and raised, cradled in the rich tapestry of cultures that Piraju embodies. My roots are a blend of Italian and Portuguese heritage; from my father’s side, the warmth of Italy, and from my mother’s, the spirited legacy of Portugal.
I grew up with my two older siblings, Joao Kleber and Luis Marcio, in a home where love was abundant and material wealth was secondary. Our parents, Antonio and Mariinha, nurtured us with values that became the bedrock of my character—honesty, respect, faith and integrity. These values, more precious than any riches, have shaped the person I am today.My childhood and adolescence are a kaleidoscope of joyful memories, each one a cherished piece of my past. Despite our modest means, my family’s richness lay in the lessons they taught and the unconditional love they provided. It was these core values, deeply embedded in my heart, that guided me as I took a significant step in my life.
At the age of 17, armed with dreams and aspirations, I left the nurturing embrace of my family to pursue higher education in another state, in Londrina city. This decision marked a new chapter, filled with hope and the promise of a future crafted by my own hands. College was not just about academic pursuit; it was the path to fulfilling my potential, guided by the principles instilled in me since childhood.
As I journeyed through this new phase of life, every challenge faced and every success achieved was a tribute to my upbringing. The spirit of Piraju, the essence of my Italian and Portuguese heritage, continued to inspire and drive me. My story, a testament to the enduring power of family values and the relentless pursuit of dreams, is still being written, each day a new page in the extraordinary journey of life. After completing my education, I earned a Bachelor’s in Physical Therapy and moved to São Paulo city, where I received my postgraduate degree in Respiratory Therapy and Exercise Physiology. For over 15 years, I worked in a renowned ICU Department in São Paulo, leading the department and overseeing the training of new physical therapists. I also contributed as an author to two reference academic books in Brazil.
In the bustling heart of São Paulo, I met my dear husband Mauricio, a kindred spirit from Minas Gerais. It was a magical encounter, love at first sight, marking the beginning of our beautiful journey together. In this vibrant city, we welcomed our cherished daughter, Laura, and built a tapestry of joyful memories. Our life in São Paulo was filled with love and laughter, punctuated by explorative trips across Brazil and abroad, each adventure weaving into our shared story. These experiences enriched our lives, strengthening the bond between us.
Eventually, our journey led us to the United States, opening a new chapter of possibilities and dreams. This move was a leap into a promising future, carrying with us the essence of our Brazilian roots and the unbreakable bond of our family. Together, our story continues to unfold, a testament to love’s enduring power and the adventures that await. In 2005 we moved to Stamford, Connecticut and in 2018 to St. Louis, USA, due to my husband’s corporate relocation. It was a significant professional opportunity for him and a chance for us to immerse ourselves in a new culture and language, as neither I nor our daughter Laura, who was 5 at the time, spoke English then. Our initial plan was a 1-2 year stay, but we fell in love with St. Louis and have made it our home since. Working in the ICU in Brazil was intense and demanding, often requiring long hours and emotional resilience. While I cherished making a difference in people’s lives, the job meant less time at home, often returning after our daughter had gone to bed. Relocating to the U.S. gave me a treasured opportunity to be more present in Laura’s life and experiences, a role I deeply value and am grateful for.
Please tell us about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned. Looking back, would you say it’s been easy or smooth?
Initially, I was just like any other individual who had left their home country to embark on a new journey – filled with excitement and trepidation. As an expat spouse, I navigated a sea of unfamiliarity, from cultural nuances to linguistic barriers. But as the days went by, it became evident that there was more to being an expat than adjusting to new foods and traditions. There was a deeper layer – one filled with emotional and psychological challenges that often went unnoticed.
As an expat spouse in the U.S.A., I faced numerous challenges in both my personal and professional life. I deeply missed my job, daily routine, financial independence, and the professional recognition I had back home. A career is more than just a job; it shapes our identity, self-esteem, and sense of belonging. Being unable to continue my profession in the U.S. felt like losing a part of myself as if my entire career and professional achievements had been erased. This loss impacted my confidence and self-esteem, making it difficult to find my footing again.
The journey could have been less challenging. For a while, I grappled with a sense of personal fault, only to realize later that I was undergoing a cultural shock, a concept I was initially unaware of. My experiences, ranging from moments of sheer loneliness to the overwhelming feeling of being out of place, led me to dive into the world of cultural shock and expatriation. The more I read, the clearer it became that my experiences weren’t isolated. Many faced the same struggles, questions, and yearning for a community where they felt understood in adapting to new professional environments.
This adaptation process is universal for those moving abroad, impacting everyone differently, each experiencing cultural shock with varying intensities and timelines. Particularly for expat spouses like myself, the common thread is often pausing our careers to facilitate our family’s transition and support our children. Spouses typically bear the greatest impact of relocation within the family. While children might initially face difficulties at school, they tend to adapt and excel. Our working partners also experience a learning curve in their new professional environments. However, for us spouses, life transforms dramatically, and we find ourselves in the throes of rediscovery and starting anew.
For a while, I thought there was something wrong with me, not realizing that I was experiencing culture shock. It’s not unusual to observe signs of depression, social isolation, and marital strain among expat spouses, particularly when lacking social support networks. My journey of professional rediscovery in the U.S.A. shed light on the unique challenges expats face while adapting to a new country. During my English classes, conversations with fellow expats revealed a shared pattern of emotions and struggles in adapting to a new culture. This prompted me to delve deeply into research, eventually leading to writing an article about the impact of culture shock on expat spouses.
The struggle also encompasses identity loss, as the absence of one’s professional identity and career can be a significant stressor. We often find ourselves searching for our place in a new country, feeling as if our contributions to the family have diminished compared to what they were back home. The loss of confidence is another hurdle; our professional background seems to vanish, and our experiences appear irrelevant. This, coupled with frustration, adds to the complexity of our situation. A considerable barrier for me was getting my credentials recognized in the USA and learning to navigate the American system. Additionally, not being fluent in the language often led to misperceptions about my education and abilities. These challenges are not just personal but represent the collective experiences of many expat spouses.
Research indicates that up to 40% of international assignments are unsuccessful, with a significant factor being the adaptation challenges faced by spouses. I’ve witnessed this firsthand; if the spouse struggles to adapt, there’s a high likelihood the family will return to their home country. This statistic underscores the financial imperative for companies to provide comprehensive preparation and ongoing support to expatriate employees and their families. Often, the failure of these assignments can be attributed to inadequate practical support in the new country and a sense of disconnection from the home environment. Thus, support for these families should extend beyond their arrival in the host country, especially for the expat spouses.
Thanks – so, what else should our readers know about your work and what you’re currently focused on?
Motivated by these findings and my own struggles as an expat spouse and personal experiences, I was driven to support these women, helping them understand the adaptation process and creating a space for connection and support. This led to the formation of the International Spouses/Expat Women Group (IS/EW group) in 2016. The idea for this group was born out of this realization of a sanctuary where women like me, navigating the intricate maze of expatriation, could find solace, support, and camaraderie. It was not just about sharing tips on the best local markets or deciphering transportation systems; it was about connecting on a deeper level, understanding each other’s unique journeys, and providing a shoulder to lean on during tough times.
Our IS/EW group serves as a vibrant community for foreign-born women who have relocated to the St. Louis area, either accompanying a spouse or partner or as expat individuals. The group offers a platform for its members to forge connections, offer mutual support, and continue personal and professional growth. Activities include engaging presentations, volunteer opportunities, practicing English in a welcoming environment, and collectively exploring our new surroundings. Our group is more than just a social circle; it’s a dynamic community committed to welcoming, integrating, supporting, educating, and empowering our international network of ambitious and like-minded women. Finding others who empathize with our feelings, acknowledge our struggles, and answer our questions is crucial in reconnecting with our identity and feeling at home in a new country. The key to this often lies in social interactions. Initially, I sought a group where I felt I belonged. The sense of belonging is a vital component of successful adaptation, and feeling part of a group again is essential in reestablishing an authentic identity in a foreign land.
What started as a small gathering of like-minded individuals soon gained momentum. Our numbers grew with word of mouth and a genuine need for such a community. Each new member brought unique stories, experiences, and insights, enriching our group. Today, I’m humbled and proud to share that our group boasts more than 800 members from 90 countries, representing a rich tapestry of cultures, and a diverse ensemble of women fluent in a multitude of languages. The majority of us hold academic degrees and have enjoyed successful careers in our home countries. United by our interest in embracing various cultures, we are dedicated to assisting newcomers in settling into their new lives and bridging cultural divides. The diversity is not just in numbers but in experiences, cultures, and perspectives. We’ve become a melting pot of ideas, traditions, and stories, making us richer in experience and understanding.
The International Spouses/Expat Women Group, for instance, runs 2-3 events monthly without a membership fee, with members covering their own expenses. In this group, we have a co-organizer, Ines Kim, a dear Korean-Brazilian-Canadian friend, who joined the group, embraced the group’s mission, and right away started helping the group with planning and hosting large events. We also have volunteer Cultural Ambassadors who assist in organizing events and welcoming newcomers, and a group of moms who arrange events for mothers and children. Our commitment is fueled by passion and the desire to make a difference in the lives of expats in St. Louis.
Alongside the affectionate Annie Schlafly, a St. Louis native with a deep love for her city, I co-founded the International Mentoring Program. Our mission is to foster connections between international and local women, helping these women and their families integrate into our community and also to educate and increase awareness of international cultures and experiences within the St. Louis community; and work to eliminate prejudice, discrimination, and biases of the community toward individuals of different cultures. My introduction to Annie came through Betsy Cohen, an outstanding and fearless leader, and the executive director of the St Louis Mosaic Project, who recognized the need for international women to be welcomed and connected with locals. Annie and I launched a six-month pilot program, bringing together five local women and five international women from my group. The success of this pilot was evident when none of the participants wanted to stop meeting at the program’s end. In 2018, we established a structured year-long program including group meetings, and social events, providing ample opportunities for expanding networks and fostering relationships that deeply connect members to our community. The positive feedback, testimonials, and stories of genuine friendships have been heartwarming.
My involvement with the St. Louis Mosaic Project has been longstanding. This initiative, part of the St. Louis Economic Development Partnership and World Trade Center St. Louis, aims to make St. Louis the fastest-growing metropolitan area for immigration by 2025, enhancing regional prosperity through immigration and innovation. Since learning about the Mosaic Project in 2014, I’ve been aligned with its mission to welcome and support international families. I began by volunteering at their events, helping to connect international individuals with organizations, and promoting their programs. The Mosaic team was instrumental in supporting the creation of the International Spouses/Expat Women Group, which is featured on their website.
I have also co-founded the Immigrant Professional Women Network Group in 2022 together with three more outlandish professional foreign-born women. Our mission with this group is to educate and empower immigrant professional women, facilitating their integration and success in the St. Louis region. My personal journey as an expat spouse in the USA, marked by various personal and professional challenges, has been a driving force behind my involvement in these initiatives.
In addition to this, I have contributed to American resources and motivational books, particularly for those born abroad, and I actively participate in various groups and organizations as part of their boards and committees, advocating for diversity, equity, and inclusion.
I’m very proud to understand “my problems” and overcome the obstacles and barriers I had to go through when I first moved to the U.S.A. I learned so much from my experiences, and I’m blessed to meet so many people here in the same situation and help them overcome their barriers today, professionally and socially. I’m proud to see people smiling again, finding their purpose in life, rediscovering themselves, finding friends, and making meaningful connections. I’ve received so many messages of appreciation from the women I serve and their partners, who are forever grateful for their spouses to be in our programs. This is priceless, being able to have a positive impact on someone’s life. I feel blessed to get to know wonderful people around me.
I realize that the challenges I faced as an expat spouse weren’t hindrances but catalysts. They pushed me towards research, understanding, and, eventually, community-building. They made me recognize the importance of having a space where expat women could share, learn, and grow together. Our region has recognized me for my tireless work with the international community. I’ve earned some awards on this journey that give me the fuel and energy to continue my mission to support the international community in our St. Louis region.
- 2017 – St Louis Mosaic Ambassador Award for outstanding dedication to growing in the St. Louis region.
- 2020 – Women of Achievement Multicultural Enrichment Award
- 2021- Contributor for the Book Owning Your G.R.I.T. – Rebuilding Myself (Jennifer Bardot)
- 2021 – Expert Contributor for the Book Welcome to the U.S.A.: You Are Hired (Betsy Cohen)
- 2022 – Mary T. Hall Honoree Diversity Award: United Nations Association of the United States of America for conducting in our region is very important for making our region a more diverse place for everyone to prosper.
- 2023 – International Institute’s Community Advocacy Award for exceptional dedication and impactful advocacy efforts on behalf of the immigrant and refugee population
My achievements are deeply rooted in the unwavering support of my loving husband. Mauricio’s steadfast presence has been the cornerstone of my journey, empowering me to devote myself to community work, a pursuit close to my heart. His belief in my talents and capabilities has been a guiding light, illuminating the path to my achievements. Equally, my heart swells with gratitude for my sweet and loving daughter. Through her, I’ve embarked on the most transformative journey of all — learning the art of motherhood. Her support and understanding have sculpted me into a better person, teaching me the depths of patience, love, and compassion. Gratitude is the word that encapsulates my feelings towards my precious husband and daughter. Their love and support are the wings upon which my aspirations take flight, and it is in their nurturing embrace that I find the strength to reach new heights. They are the unsung heroes behind my every success, the silent strength in every endeavor, and the joy in every triumph. Their roles in my life are immeasurable and my achievements, are a testament to their unwavering love and belief in me.
Let’s talk about our city – what do you love? What do you not love?
St. Louis is The Heart of Midwestern Charm- St. Louis is often celebrated for its iconic Gateway Arch. However, those fortunate enough to truly experience the city know its essence goes beyond any monument. The warmth of its people, the generosity that pervades its communities, and the rich mosaic of culture, nature, and history make it stand out. The Soul of the City, Its People – Above all, the friendly people of St. Louis define its character. The city exudes a welcoming aura, a Midwestern charm that’s palpable from the moment you enter it. Whether walking down a bustling street or savoring a meal in a local diner, you’re met with smiles, open conversations, and a genuine interest in your well-being. This generosity isn’t just emotional; the people here are quick to lend a helping hand, making newcomers feel right at home. My favorite spots in St. Louis include Forest Park, the Missouri Botanical Garden, the Saint Louis Art Museum, the Contemporary Art Museum (CAM), the Missouri History Museum, the Pulitzer Museum, and many more. These places are fundamental to the city’s lively arts and history landscape, providing an array of artistic and historical experiences that showcase St. Louis’s rich mosaic.
I love the fact that in St. Louis, Missouri, the passion for sports is a defining trait of its residents, with the Cardinals’ baseball, the Blues’ hockey, and the excitement around St. Louis SC soccer deeply ingrained in the city’s culture. These teams represent more than just sports; they are a source of pride and unity, embodying the spirit and resilience of St. Louisans.
I’m proud to say that originally known as the “Gateway to the West” due to its location at the confluence of the Mississippi and Missouri Rivers, St. Louis is increasingly gaining recognition as a hub of scientific innovation, particularly in agricultural technology. This transformation is reshaping its identity into that of a significant capital in the agri-tech sector.
St. Louis is more than just a city; it’s an experience! It’s where the heart meets history, nature intertwines with culture, and every street, corner, and alley has a story waiting to be discovered. However, like many urban landscapes across the globe, St. Louis has its areas of growth. While the city has made strides in various sectors, opportunities remain for enhancement, particularly regarding security and addressing racial disparities. As we celebrate the unity and diversity that St. Louis offers, it’s essential to recognize and actively work towards creating an environment where every individual feels truly safe and acknowledged for their unique contributions. It’s a shared vision where St. Louis evolves into a place that celebrates diversity and ensures that inclusivity and equity become its very foundation. This would entail proactive efforts from every sector of society – from policymakers to community leaders, businesses to every resident. The journey towards a more inclusive and secure St. Louis is ongoing, and with the collective efforts of its people, there’s no doubt the city will reach its aspiration of becoming a beacon of equality, safety, and unity for all.
Contact Info:
Susan Gobbo
Email: su.gobbo@gmail.com
International Spouses / Women Expat Group
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Meetup: STL International Spouses/Expat Women Group
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International Mentoring Program
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