We recently had the chance to connect with Amiana Monik and have shared our conversation below.
Amiana , a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: What is a normal day like for you right now?
A normal day for me right now is slow and intentional by design. My mornings start with making sure my kids are where they need to be, and then I turn my attention inward. I prioritize grounding myself before anything else has access to me. That looks like prayer, reflection, and spending time in God’s presence. Most mornings I have Pastor Mike Jr. playing in the background, setting the tone and message for the day.
I am very intentional about honoring my body as well. That usually looks like going to the gym, taking care of my skin, and allowing myself to move at a pace that feels aligned instead of rushed. The rest of my day is a blend of creating and tending. Writing, business meetings, emails, and the behind-the-scenes work that comes with building something meaningful all live there.
Just as important, I make space for the parts of life that do not show up on paper. Motherhood, family dinners, conversations, and stillness matter to me. My days are slower than they used to be, but they are fuller. I am no longer focused on proving anything. I am focused on being present.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is Amiana Monik, and at my core, I am an author and storyteller. I write from lived experience, faith, and reflection, often exploring the intersections of identity, love, and emotional truth. My work centers on naming what many people feel but struggle to articulate, especially when it comes to healing and self-awareness.
Beyond writing, my work extends into entrepreneurship and community building, but storytelling is the thread that connects everything I do. Whether I am creating, leading, or building, it all comes back to giving language to real experiences and creating spaces where honesty and growth are possible. Right now, my primary focus is my book, Faith, Love & Narcissism, which reflects both my personal journey and the clarity that comes from understanding it.
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. Who were you before the world told you who you had to be?
Who I was before the world told me who I had to be is exactly who I am now. As a child, I was grounded, intuitive, and certain of myself. I lived a sheltered life, and in that space, I was allowed to simply be who I was without pressure, comparison, or performance.
As I grew older and was introduced to the world, I was also introduced to expectations, peer pressure, and the quiet push to fit into places that did not fully align with me. Somewhere along the way, I lost parts of myself trying to navigate environments that required adjustment instead of authenticity. There was a season where who I was became blurred, questioned, and reshaped by experiences and relationships.
What feels full circle now is I have returned to myself. Through healing, distance, reflection, and faith, I have shed layers that were never meant to stay. I had to heal from people, release certain situations, and confront hard truths, many of which I explore in Faith, Love & Narcissism. That journey brought clarity. The middle was uncertain, but the core never changed. Who I am today is who I always knew I was meant to be, just more aware, more grounded, and more aligned.
When did you stop hiding your pain and start using it as power?
I stopped hiding my pain when I realized that carrying it silently was costing me my voice. For a long time, I believed strength meant endurance. It meant pushing through, holding things together, and not letting anyone see where it hurt. But that version of strength was heavy, and it kept me disconnected from myself.
Using my pain as power didn’t happen all at once. It came through honesty, faith, and the willingness to confront truths I had avoided for years. I learned that healing does not require erasing the past, but understanding it. When I allowed myself to name what I experienced and how it shaped me, the pain lost its control. It became insight. It became clarity.
That shift changed everything. My story no longer felt like something to survive, but something to steward. It gave depth to my writing, purpose to my work, and alignment to my life. What once felt like a weight became a source of wisdom, and that transformation continues to guide how I show up today.
I think our readers would appreciate hearing more about your values and what you think matters in life and career, etc. So our next question is along those lines. What would your closest friends say really matters to you?
My closest friends would say that what really matters to me is integrity. How I live when no one is watching. Faith is central to my life, not as a label, but as a daily practice that guides my decisions, my boundaries, and how I treat people. They would also say that I value honesty, even when it is uncomfortable, and depth over performance.
Relationships matter deeply to me. Not surface level connections, but ones rooted in trust, accountability, and mutual growth. I care about alignment more than approval, peace more than being understood by everyone, and purpose more than pace. My friends know that I am intentional about protecting my time, my energy, and my spirit, because I have learned what it costs to neglect them.
At the end of the day, what matters most to me is living in a way that feels true. True to God. True to myself. And true to the life I am building with intention.
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. What is the story you hope people tell about you when you’re gone?
I hope the story people tell about me is that I lived resiliently. Not in a way that glorifies struggle, but in a way that honors faith, perseverance, and obedience. My life has never been about ease or appearances. It has been about standing firm in who I am, even when doing so required courage, restraint, and deep trust in God.
Resilience, for me, was not always loud or visible. It often showed up in the quiet work of choosing healing, setting boundaries, and continuing forward when the battle was internal. When you believe in God and understand who you are in Him, the fight is not always physical. It can be spiritual, emotional, and mental, and learning how to navigate that with grace is a discipline in itself.
I want to be remembered as someone who chose alignment over comfort and faith over fear. Someone who did not pretend her way through life, but allowed her story to unfold honestly and with intention. If my words or my work helped someone feel seen, choose themselves, or trust their own becoming, then I know I lived in purpose.
More than anything, I hope the story reflects that I honored who I was becoming while staying true to who I had always been at my core.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://Amianamonik.com
- Instagram: @amianamonik
